.moxie to own

.moxie to own - originally written December 3rd, 2022

{Not gonna lie, vulnerable moment, this one is extremely difficult for me to write. Not because it’s a complicated topic, but because I am working on doing it myself, so here goes nothing <3}

Let’s talk cooking. Our wildest dreams and aspirations are like a Thanksgiving turkey, and the “ingredients” it takes to cook the best “Turkey” are qualities. I would say the list of qualities is a laundry list of things such as will, desire, commitment, focus, etc. However, there is an intrinsic quality that pushes us over the edge from those dreams floating in our mind, to physically seeing and living them in reality. This “ingredient” pushes us beyond that fire-y desire of “I want ___, and I’ll do anything it takes to get there”. This quality has the potential to take us out of that dark, gloomy period of “Why isn’t it here yet? When will it be my time? Maybe I should throw in the towel…” to “It’s time”. The one ingredient that is never discussed in achieving our wildest dreams is the moxie to own. But, ownership of what? 

Let’s now talk royalty. As a Princess is preparing to become a Queen, she (she as in me, yes me) does not know when the time will come, just that it will come. During that time, Princesses are faced with many challenges. In the beginning phases of a princess preparing to take the throne, she does all of the “right” things. Studies the current Queen with attentiveness, makes note of how she would rule her kingdom differently, handles confrontation with grace and poise, etc. She says, “I’m ready! I can do this.” But then, the “beginning” of that formula working, now stops (dark, gloomy period commences). The Princess has done all of the external work to be able to sit on the throne and command a kingdom, but there is internal work that’s required of sending her over the edge to be crowned Queen. The Universe wants to know she is ready by throwing curveballs to get the answer to one simple question - “Are you owning the fact that you already have what it takes to be Queen?” 

When the Princess is actually a Queen, it will be impossible for her to thrive on challenges coming at them head on, if she does not own the fact that she deserves and is enough to be making such weighted decisions such as splitting territories, making alliances, giving back to her community, etc. This is ownership. “I may be a Princess, but I own my worth as an inner Queen. I own my deservingness and am more than enough to sit on the throne.” From this moment forward, a Princess can now begin acting from her inner Queen, even though the time has not come yet.

It is this spiritual energy that sends us from “When is ‘it’ going to happen?” to “My time is now”. We have to have the moxie, audacity, courage, all of those things, to own the fact that we already are our wildest dreams. We deserve and are enough to speak in our relationships with grace and regard, dress in the finest cloth, and most importantly say no to people and opportunities that do not align with our inner Queen. OWN IT MY FRIEND, YOU ARE QUEEN (OR KING :))!